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My Thoughts on Social Dynamics

Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:54:00 +0000

I love the study of relationships. It seems no matter where you go people unanimously agree that relationships are the most important aspect of any individuals life.

We Are One.

I recently got back from another self - help seminar. In this seminar I became much more self aware. I experienced emotions I've never felt in my life. I lived in visualizations as real as my physical reality and I meditated to parts of my mind that I've never experienced in my life. The biggest thing that I realized was the power of relationships and the limitations that I had placed on myself for such a long time.

I believe that relationships are the most important aspect of any individuals life. I believe that an individual is the sum of their thoughts and their relationships in their life. I think that accountability is all on me when it comes down to my actions. I am the one who thinks the thoughts that cause my actions. However the relationships that I have in my life influence my thoughts which in turn influence my actions. I think that we are the sum of our thoughts plus our relationships.

In order for a connection to exist the communication pipeline has to be clear. No walls between each party. As soon as one person puts a block on communication the other person knows. Human intution is the greatest gift that we've been given. It's as if we can sense when another person is lying by the heavy feeling we get inside of our body. On the other hand it's as if we feel light as air when someone is being completely truthful with us.

Why Do We Hold Back?

We hold back because of insecurities. We hold back because of fears. We hold back because we've been hurt in the past when we let other people in. We hold back because we have trust issues. We hold back because we're afraid of the future based on what's happened in the past. The truth is we hold back because as human beings we have this innate tendency to always be right. The human mind is so focused on being right that sometimes it forgets the importance of compromise, of a healthy balanced relationship.

There comes a point where I had to ask myself: did I want to be right or did I want to have healthy relationships? I can't have both. Two people are completely different individuals based on their life experience and upbringings. For me to be "always right" is ignorant and self - righteous. My insecurities leaked into my brain about the relationships that I would have and because I always wanted to be right I wouldn't communicate these insecurities to the people that I loved the most. I didn't want them to see my weakness and I knew I was "right" about my insecure thoughts anyways.

I realized this weekend that I am not always right. In fact there are often times when my mind brings me the wrong thought. I allow this thought to trickle inside of my brain and don't communicate it to the relationships that mean the most to me and this leads to feelings of resentment. The human mind is amazing. The relationships that I had sensed the resentment that I had and because I wouldn't communicate the issue, the other party would start to feel resentment towards me too. Now we're two people resenting each other for one person's insecurity.

Talk About A Waste of Time.

We are one consciousness. We are one energy. We were not born and given these amazing gifts that human beings were given to hesitate. We were born and given these amazing gifts to communicate with each other and create something greater than ourselves. We were born to be open and honest with each other. This illusion of separation that we have in our society keeps us from communicating our thoughts and feelings with each other but the truth is that we are all one. We sense each other's feelings, we have an intution towards each other's thoughts.

I realized this weekend that my relationships deserve the best version of myself. We were born to communicate. How many times have you held back communication with someone you love because you wanted to be right? It doesn't take two people to make a relationship work. It takes one person, 100% committed to make a relationship work. We cannot change our relationships by telling the other person that they are wrong. We must change our relationships by inspiring ourselves to be right. We then liberate others around us to do the same just by being in their presence.

Do you want to be right or do you want to be loved?

consistency

Sun, 22 Jan 2012 10:15:13 +0000

Today I had a pretty ugly night. Usually, I am getting warmed up on Friday, and Sat going for the kill. This time I a bit burned out, probably after 5 hours of pick up yesterday. I still had some success, but it was like jogging with 50 kilo of extra weight. Also, when I came to the club I did not start approaching right away and after this could not get into state.
Earlier that day, I went to a movie with a girl, did not expect much from it, was some chick from the facebook. The movie was the Iron Lady, probably sucked some energy. Usually movies and pick up are not good together.
Besides, I kissed that girl on the cheek and she blocked me on facebook after this. What a bitch . Also I did a phone game, got one girl on, second girl asked someone to call me and ask to stop calling her. I had a fun conversation with this guy, was some ridiculous chode, I probably should invite him for coffee, but whatever.

So in the beginning of the night, could not open for a while. Now looking back I realized how different circumstances affected my performance, but I still could run the game. Opened number of sets. First set was some average looking blond staying away with a drink. Opened her with
something I red about that in dark ages women were weighted to find out if they are witches, so if they are heavier than 50 kilo, the inquisition was burning them alive. It actually works pretty well, especially it was congruent, cause I really red this story today.
Kinda went to next couple of sets, opened, got blow off. This night I mostly focused on indirect approach, and tried to minimize kino, just to find that sweet spot.
Eventually I got frustrated with losing ability to open, so I went to my wing and asked him to play 32 counts. He just pushed me to a first set.
I opened , boom on . It was twins, they were kinda nice kept conversation, till I tried to escalate. As soon as I started to take her hands, she laughed and pushed me away. Also my wing was busy with the second twin sister, so this chick actually made a comment "You guys are smart" May be red "The Game" or something.
Next set I opened myself. It was 3 philipinos, 1 black chik from Ghana and 1 white Canadian. It was seated set, I believe I just came and set in the chair, tried to open the hottest girl P1 with something lame, she got pissed, tried to blow me off, I ignored her. Got into conversation with over girls, spent in this set about 20 min, actually white Canadian was pretty talkative, so it was easy, she did all the heavy lifting for me. P1 actually tried to rid off me couple of times, even later on after I left a set she asked a chode to pushed me away, but this guy was a pussy. So he started to push me with his ass. I grabbed his ass and danced with him like with a girl. After this he kinda turned around I asked him "hey man, what's up?" He did not say anything, but stopped pushing me with his ass. After this actually I closed one of those chicks for phone #. As soon as she typed her # in this P1 comes from the dance floor with "bla bla what did you do?" So I had to leave, besides her number is from Edmonton, so not so useful anyway.
After this I opened may be 5-8 sets. Clawed 1 tall afro-chick, it went well
till she said that she is 18, after this I sorta flinched. I said something like " I would love to molest you, but lets keep it legal". Did not work well.

Kiss closed 1 girl. I actually clawed her, she is saying "I have a bf" I heard "I have a bd" so I am "Oh, it is great" She is "no bf", "damn" kiss her in mouth. She pushed me away though, so I left. The funny thing that after this I met this chick, she even remembered my name. Also< I had another good claw set with 1 asian chick, but lost it on congruence and at the same time some chode came in and said that she has a bf bla bla. I guess this guys try to get in this way. I had to eject anyway, not so much because of the chode, but mostly because chick sorta pushed me away and disappeared.
Went also to Metz, it was OK, I opened couple of sets there. Probably my best set was some Asian girl, I opened 3 set, was already tired as fuck.
Opened 1 girl, she ignored me, opened another- boom on. Spoke to her about 5 min, some white bitch came and drugged her away.

My biggest epiphany though was my wing with his persistence. This guy is going nuts, I realized how important it is to go to the hilt.

Commonwealth

Sat, 21 Jan 2012 10:44:41 +0000

Hi guys,

Too much pick up for one day. Got headache, but satisfied at the same time.
Was at Commonwealth today, met some dudes there. The thing about this club was that lineup in the coatcheck was so long so I could not physically get out, so I stuck pretty much till very end opening sets and drinking water.
Close to the end I barely could talk, but also I could open like nothing.
By the way it is pretty good place and free before 08:45 pm. For me it is a good info cause I hate paying cover charge.
In the beginning I felt horrible there. First tiem in the new place, fear of foreign territories+ anxiety bad mix. But whatever. Got to open. My first opener was, "need help, feel pretty weird in the new environment. Worked pretty awful, but get me go, after number of rejections, I got better, started to claw chicks. Actually I clawed one chick that rejected me harsh in Roadie before, total success, could not move on but she was was pretty receptive, smiling giving me good vibe.
Opened some HB8 from birthday, I actually opened her friends before.
So, I clawed this girl, was OK, but I went too harsh at some point and touched her ass, even though she was totally nice, but she asked her friends to blow me off, the funny thing even she asked my wing to pretend that he is with her, cause I am hitting on her when I was passing. Of cause she did not know that we know each other, he just kinda guessed and told me later.
Was also one mixed looking girl I opened with good success and was some connection, but I could not capitalize on it. Also, her friend was some crazy bitch, I could not even talk to her. When I started to escalate with this girl, her friend drugged her away. I thought too bad, and I tried to talk to this crazy chick before but it was just like a bad looking alien.
Later on I still kissed that girl, so game is still on.
Opened 1 fatty, I do sometimes fatty practice. Was actually very funny black fatty with 3 gorgeous bitches. Could not approach those girls, but got in through fatty. One of them was sort of OK, but others were pretty close, so it did not go more than tease.
Overall, was a good night. The important is to approach and to make progress.

Solo night - Red Deer

Wed, 18 Jan 2012 00:01:31 +0000

So, I never get any replies from you guys when I post that I'm looking for a wingman. I thought, maybe, it's because I never actually post any Field-Reports, and you guys have no idea who I am.

For your reading enjoyment: My Saturday night.

It wasn't until about 9:00 that I realized that I was down to game it up. I started texting some friends in Red Deer (and posted on here) that I was looking for a wing. Red Deer is always a good time, so I figured there'd be no problem.

But, the notice was too late for my buddies, and I never heard back from anyone on the forums.

I don't solo very often, so I was contemplating just calling it quits. But, who ever gets what they want by giving up? I decided that this was a good opportunity to do my first solo night in Red Deer. Here goes nuthin, right?

I started at the Gent's Club: the strippers next door to the nightclub. It's the standard move here. Everyone starts at one of the two stripclubs, and bounces to the nightclubs around 12. Talking to a few people at the rippers is a good way to build some social proof for the club, since you can stop and chat with people you recognize fairly easily. Besides, the hostesses are all wearing lingerie, so it's fun to game them and get them laughing.

I talked to every girl that walked by - server or not. Ended up getting one of the strippers to sit on my knee and talk... which almost never happens in AB. Vegas, sure. AB? It's kind of a no-no. (Speaking of Vegas... if any of you ever go, I have free limos for life, no line, no cover at the strip clubs there... let me know, I'll make a call for you).

Bounce to Lotus.

Waiting in lines sucks. I need to get to know the bouncers here so I can get VIP entry. To keep social, I just started talking to the group around me in line. Did the two cheek kisses move (have two girls both kiss either cheek at the same time, then ask who's too chicken to kiss my lips), got two k-closes from that. First 5 minutes.

By the time I'd checked my coat, I'd already talked to 12-15 people. I was feeling exceptionally positive, and stayed in the zone for the rest of the night. It was definitely a night to remember.

I was by myself, so I decided to get in with a group right away. There are VIP booths along the main walking path here, so lots of social proof if you can get in one. I was in one within 15 minutes of checking my coat. Ended up being a really good mixed group - lots of cute girls. There was a guy trying to AMOG me whenever there were girls around that he knew. Sucker didn't know what happened, I'm sure. I ignored the girls for a bit to build rapport with him, then basically took over every female interaction from then on.

One of the guys in the VIP was kind of watching, and I think he knew a little bit of game theory, but had never really seen it before. I noticed that he was kind of in awe, and told him I'd be his wingman for the night.

Six makeouts, and at least a dozen numbers later - most of which all he did was stand there and watch me game - he was like: holy crap dude. Who the hell are you?

Literally, several makeouts were me talking to the girl, looking at him and saying: she totally wants to make out with you, man. Looking back at her and saying: do it, I won't stop you. *bam*

Did anyone ever tell you attraction is transferrable?

Anyway, totally destroyed any of my fears of solo sarging. And next time I'll be the one cashing in on the attraction I've built. In other words: back to normal.

Peace, love, and PUA.

Dan. The man.

Gamble's Field Report Thread: Detailed with Lessons

Tue, 17 Jan 2012 20:49:52 +0000

February 17th 2012

Last night was a good night for me. It started out at Stand Up comedy. I also had a date bail on me yesterday. I need to learn that lesson.

My date and I were scheduled to meet up on Monday for our date. I didn't really talk to her too much over the weekend, and I didn't call her till 6pm. This probably gave her time to think about other things that she wanted to do and a lack of organization caused a date to fall through. With my dates next time I need to be the one who takes full responsibility. This means that my dates have to be notified of the date plans at last a few hours before the date. 2 hours before the date isn't the best move.

Alright alright alright now. Here we go now, check it out now. Making the right moves at all times. Boom. Make sure that I text my dates before hand.

I love stand up comedy. It always puts me in the right mood to go out for Hudsons. I want my candle to be lit. I think it'll level up my focus. Boom. Here we go now. I was feeling stand up comedy last night. Daniel and I didn't go until 8:30 again. That's not good because we didn't get the good seats. I'd love to get front row seats. We're going to have to make sure we're there earlier next time so we get the full value out of the show. True, the stand up comics aren't on right away but having the best seats for the show would be sick. We're more likely to be heckled and we have a chance to participate in the show.

WINNING.

Alright. Hudsons last night. I walked into Hudsons at 10:30 and I walked in alone. I thought Mikey B was going to be there but the communication with my wingman wasn't as efficient as it could have been. I'm going to have to level up my communication with my wingman. With everyone really. I've been really focused on developing a relationship with myself (developing integrity) and that kept me from developing a relationship with others. Clearer communication with my wingman is the best option.

I walked in alone and it took me awhile to open my first set. Once I opened it was kind of awkward simply because I didn't warm up as soon as I got in there. I know that I need to approach as soon as I get in even if it's to say what's up. This momentum will kick start my night in the direction I want it to go. You don't walk into the gym and stare at the weights for half an hour. You walk into the gym and pump the weights right away after you stretch it out. I waited awhile to start than I just pumped out weights. Not the best for growth. Next time I'll have to make sure that I warm up properly.

The positives were that I stayed in a conversation with people I knew for alot longer. I also made sure that I opened after I was warmed up. I warmed up on people that I knew than I walked around for 30 seconds to realize that I was lowering my value. There weren't alot of people in the venue and I was walking around alone. The more people that see me alone the harder it's going to be to approach those people. I stood in one spot, took a deep breath and looked to the table that was to my left. Table full of 10 girls.

Fuck.

"Excuse me guys. You guys look interesting I wanted to come over and say hi!"

I sat down next to the girls and shook three of their hands. The table was long and I figure it would have been uncalibrated to get all of their attention. I sat down next to the hottie and started talking to her. The dynamic was a bit wierd. I sat in a spot on the bench to which there was no table. Hottie sat right next to me and there was no table in front of her either. Next to her was her friend sitting at the table of 10 people. I was sitting next to the attractive girl and out of social reach of the other 9 people, so it ended up being her and I talking.

We talked for a few minutes. I stuck out the awkwardness... and man was it awkward. I love the awkwardness. I know I'm growing the most because of it. I stuck it out and one of the waitresses that I had met before came up to the table to take the drinks. I've met this waitress at my Hudsons escapades and she's smooooking hot. Her coming over and giving me a hug in front of these girls was a serious bonus. The waitress and I talked for a couple minutes and we agreed to go get a shot together. I knew one of the bartenders so I took the waitress up to the bartender and got us 3 a shot.

The momentum's rolling! I'm starting to feel good at this point as the waitress and the bartender walk away. I look to my left and see two guys standing by the bar.

"Dude! Why is everyone wearing suits?"

The guys tell me they're there with a christmas party. I introduce myself to the two guys and we talk for a few mintues. Banter back and forth about what they do and why they're here, they asked me about my snowpants. The snowpants were money. I wanted to be warm outside and I didn't want to take them off when I got inside so I walked around with snowpant suspenders all night long. I took alot of heat; girls testing me "Why are you wearing those?!!" but I thought it was hilarious and it was a good opportunity to train my frame... resisting their resistance.

After parting ways with my newfound friends I walked over to two more guys standing by the bar and started chatting them up. The hardest part of the night for me is the start; getting momentum rolling. I'm extremely comfortable once I have the right amount of momentum. I think the momentum is the most important part of anyones night; and once you understand the fundamental concepts of Social Dynamics they come out unconsciously while you're tapped into the energy of the room.

I stood with my two guy friends and we watched some girl on the dance floor get her skirt lifted by some guy. It looked like she wasn't wearing pants but she didn't even notice. I thought it was funny and as the girl walked by me I yelled at her.

"Hey!! Nice dance moves. You forget to wear your pants today?"

The girl and I chatted for a few minutes. She told me she was mad that I was making fun of her because I was cute and stylish. Fuel to the fire baby! I started to feel the moment even more as I started playfully flirting with her, touching her stomache and whispering in her ear.

"I don't even know you, and I saw your ass. And now... I'll never get to see it again!"

"I'll let you see it again..."

That was unexpected! I excused myself. One night stands aren't the best move; way too much drama and wayyyy too much potential to take value. This girl was drunk and I was sober, and she was super into me. Staying any longer would have had the potential to take more value. I walked back to my two guy friends standing at the bar and continued talking to them.

From here on was a blur. I opened alot of conversations, I talked to alot of people. Simon showed up and I got to wing with him. Simon's a dope dude, and having a good wing is essential. There were a couple conversations that I was having where I was KILLING it with the girl that I liked but her friend would come up and steal her right away. It doesn't matter how good you are, you can only be so good if there's external forces affecting your outcomes. There are things you can do to prevent these external forces from ruining your interactions; such as introduce yourself right away or find some way to instantly involve her in the conversation but having a good wingman eliminates this problem all together.

And it keeps you accountable.

Around 12:30am I lost momentum. It had been a few minutes since I had talked to anyone I was interested in and my mind started to wander. I felt like leaving but I refused. I stuck it out. I sat down for 10 minutes to collect my thoughts and become aware of my environment. I think this was a huge factor in bringing me present. Simon came and sat down next to me and we chatted for half an hour about growth, and about our night. Simon and I felt like this night was a night to build some positive life momentum. We were here to push some comfort zones, take some risks and grow even when we don't subconsciously want to. I consciously wanted to grow.

Simon approached the group of people standing 5 feet in front of us successfully but then the friends came in and stole his girl away. I wasn't present at this point and wasn't aware enough to jump into conversation. There's a lesson here: being inside of my head doesn't only take value from me, but also from my wingman. After Simon came back to sit down next to me the group gravitated a bit closer to us. I thought the girl in front of me was interested in me because she kept coming closer to me but in reality her back was turned to me while she was moving closer. This could have meant that she was interested (proximity) but at the same time her back was turn signaling disinterest. I attempted to open anyways (did it half assed, didn't stand up, lightly tapped her to turn around and see me) and she turned around, looked, then blew me off.

OUCH!

Lesson learned. You never go half retard, you always go full retard. I didn't stand up and assert myself into the conversation and she blew off my approach. That's okay. Simon and I decided that it was time to take off. We got up to leave and as we grabbed our coats I wanted to have one last rep. One more rep. That's why I'm here. Simon also wanted to grab the waitresses number. We agreed on a gameplan of approaching. I saw the girl that I wanted to approach. She was standing with her friend by the bar. Two set? Perfect way to end the night.

I started walking towards them... and saw the guy that was standing in the group. Fuck. Growth time. I approached the girl that I wanted direct anyways. It worked. She opened up to me and I introduced myself. I introduced myself to her friend and I told her friend that I thought "girl" was gorgeous. I asserted my presence in the group and shook the males hand, giving him my name. He reciprocated. Perfect.

Girl's friend and I talked for a few minutes about my approach. I see it like this: when I approach a girl direct she already knows my intention. By me spending time getting to know just her she's going to think I'm just here to pick her up. Instead, I chat up her friends. This girl can see that I'm interested in her (I approached direct) and now she can tell that her friends like me... which makes her like me. After talking to her friend for a few minutes I turned back to my girl of interest; to which she started opening up and asking me questions.

The interaction went extremely well. I was cool, calm and collected the whole time. I maintained solid eye contact, my body language remained still and my eye contact was strong when we looked each other in the eyes. Alot of the interaction was spend leaning in speaking to each other's ears. She found out I was 20, she was 24. She was also from Jasper, just visiting for a couple of days. This girl was smoking hot, mmm. In the middle of our conversation a guy came up that knew her since he was 8 years old. I handled this one really well, shook the guys hand right away and asked how long they've known each other. He told me about Jasper where he was from and I related to him on connecting with an old friend the other day.

After talking to this guy I looked over my shoulder to see Simon looking at me standing by the front door. We were supposed to go right away so I walked back to him and asked him how his interaction went. He said it was good and he told me where he could have improved. I looked back at the group I was just in to see two more guys join the group to make the total group size 5 people. That girl was really hot.

"I'm going back for her number."

I walked back in and straight to the girl I was attracted to. "Excuse me. I seriously think you're gorgeous and I'd love to grab your number." .. "But I live in Jasper," .. I didn't have really anything to say and was stumped so I said "..So?" she responded "I don't really think there's a point." .. "Alright, what's your Facebook."

I grabbed her Facebook and gave her a hug goodbye. I parted ways with the group and back to Simon with a smirk on my face. It doesn't matter that I didn't get the number from her; I got a cute waitresses number this night, I went outside of my comfort zone and went BACK IN to a big group for the number and I pushed a fuckload of my comfort zones tonight. I count it as a major success.

The lessons that I learned:
- Make sure I confirm my date a few hours before the date. I didn't call my date until 2 hours before the date and she had forgotten about it. I got flaked on because of my lack of organization.
- Warm up as soon as I get into the venue. It doesn't matter whether or not the interaction goes bad or good, by me walking around I allowed myself more time to get inside of my head and think about outcomes.
- A wingman is an efficient way to create Win - Win situations for you and your wingman. It doesn't matter how good you are on your own; there are just some situations where external forces combined will overcome the will of one man. Having a wing keeps you accountable AND increases your chances of success.
- Always go for one last rep. It doesn't matter whether or not your night is good or bad. When you're walking out of the venue look for one last rep. Arnold Swartzneggar said that "Champions are made on the final rep."

30 yo newbie here

Sun, 15 Jan 2012 07:20:09 +0000

hi everyone
i have been out of the game for a while now , well since i graduated
I'm looking for wing-men some one who can help me get back in the game,
if you have anything coming up please let me know
i am a 30 yo accountant and i need a 12hr notice
feel free to email me
my email address is : cpamason@gmail.com

warm up night

Sat, 14 Jan 2012 09:00:12 +0000

Went out tonight, to warm up, tried number of things. First of all paired up with a guy from RSD. Pretty solid player. In the beginning I underestimated him, but saw his game, was really good. Even sort of blasted me for a moment. Went to meet him in Melrouse, spoke a bit, exchanged experiences of yesterday free tour, than he recommended me to go out and to open, while he is eating. I went, honestly pussied, could not open anything. Eventually one guy opened me, asked me about the bronze medal I was wearing for peacock. I had a short conversation with him, went back spoke a bit, opened couple of more sets. Went outside, opened 2 dancing chicks, first verbally, than went in, sorta clicked, but I could not transmit it to the comfort stage, it is my weakness, especially not warm.
Left them, moved out. My wing opened a chick that was talking with a bouncer, asked me if they look good together. I replied, "no, she is not good enough for you", funny, it clicked. I saw this chik's reaction, I could probably get her number with a bit more game, but well, went out.
Opened set mom+2 chiks. I picked one girl up, turned around, after this lost interest. It blown the set off, I could potentially hold it with bringing more value to the interaction, hard to say.
After this my wing opened 1 more set, was a 3 set. More like a socializing, nothing serious. Came to Metz, went in, was pretty empty. Went out, I saw couple of girls coming in, decided to hit it later.
Went to the bars to hit. I mostly observed my new friend. He opened pretty much everything. In the Yardhouse he stoked with a chik, I did not want to get in. so lost about 5 min, than went to Metz. Opened 2-3 sets there, was pretty low target zone, so eventually I left earlier than even planned.

Wingman Scripts At Club

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 19:52:53 +0000

Hey guys me again, This Time i was wondering about some good scripts for sarging with my buddy at the club, we got a couple but would like to hear some more from outside perspectives!
before tomm night would be appreciated, for as we would like you use your techniques!

points to work

Sun, 08 Jan 2012 09:32:50 +0000

Hey guys,

Finally back to field. Missed it, but well I was seeing 2 hotties, still seeing 1. Today actually I had a friend calling and pulling me out of the house, I am super thankful to him for this. Went to Melrouse and Metz. First Metz, estimated market potential, was actually pretty good. Opened 1 girl on my way out with a claw, very hot chik, did not go anywhere, I actually thought that her bf was coming so left her, but hell knows, she looked totally fine.
Than we could not talk there, so we went to Melrouse, same loud music , a lot of hot chiks, but was easier to chat. There I opened 2 sets. One was chik passing by, I just pulled her hand she loved it. Took her close, spoke, a bit push and pull, engaging conversation. Really hot girl from Holland, I actually overdid a bit with escalation so ended nowhere, but it was promising first warm up set. After this my friend told me that someone got rejected by 2 chiks. Made me curious, went there, opened. Cracked up set with them, went nowhere, no attraction etc. politely left on the high note.
After Melrouse went to Metz, met a female friend on the entrance, a bit chat, I might get a wing lady out of this. Went in, opened a chik there pull claw total on, lost her for a sec. Opened another one. Still need to work a bit on escalation and on being happy. Sometimes I am getting negative, losing a girl. Opened about 5-6 sets got social proof, then it got a bit better. Was actually 1 lady dancing next to me apparently she has 3 kids, not an option, she told me that I blowing myself out, but for me it is good to screen out women like this. Probably big mess to see someone with 3 kids, unless to pull. Opened 1 black chick, was reduculous, opener about her wig, I am even not sure if it was wig, she did not tell, probably yes.
Than I sort of lost it , but the nice way. Opened a chinese girl dancing, pulled her in, danced a bit went to close too soon. Lets go dancing together, etc. needed more comfort. For future I decided to do push, pull more, looks like a big hole in my game. This chik brought some chode in "It is my bf".
"Yes, and you are my little lier "
"No, blabla"
"Ok, here I should probably do something different, but I pulled her on my shoulder and went away. Not enough comfort, this "BF" guy hooked up to her like it was his last dollar bill. Was actually funny, cause 1 of the ladies staying next to me said "That is how it should be done"
I just laughed, indeed I lost perfectly good set and chance to get laid, but it was almost worth it. Actually when I was leaving this girl was waiving me and she was really happy. May be I still could pull it off.
Cool, next weekend snowboarding, after this going out total beast mode. If anyone wants to join me for snowboarding, do not be shy guys. I need some company.
Well pretty much that

Marshien

Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:05:16 +0000

The Champ is here!!!
Just met Gamble on Thursday (really cool dude), looking forward to seeing the rest of you on Sunday. I'm from Toronto, PSI forum, learnt a lot from there about myself and now I am the way I am I can see the forum doesn't have to much activity, and maybe the assertiveness of the guys in Toronto is what we need here, I'm just saying. I could be wrong, I don't post much myself, but we can all get this train running together. I currently need somebody to go out to clubs with. I don't drive so I would appreciate somebody pic me up and I can add gas money.
Im by UofC, and so far I've met a lot of friendly people. I won’t lie to you, never having a school like this I became a little too happy and tried to be a joker, it’s tempting to be that guy when everybody gives you attention. Somehow I got lucky and 3 girls approached me; Korean girls, one number closed me last night, laughed at my every joke, just had to sit next to me and her friend was just as enthusiastic about me. A girl from Mexico kept holding me when I was ice skating yesterday (Black man on ice, I couldn’t resist it), this girl was soooo obvious but I don’t know what kept her back, I guess the other dudes she was hanging with but I’ll catch her later. Nigerian girl, was into me, introduced herself, and was watching me all day, then she wanted me to chase after her but she kept to the other black kid, I’ll catch her later too. she just needs a nudge in my direction I think.
Austrian girls, New Zealand girls (Exchange students) I can’t mess this up, they invited me to skiing with them, I hope it works out and I can give them a story about black guys to tell their friends back home. 2 days ago I number closed a black girl, when I was walking in the dark back to res, when I got into the light and saw her she was not the cutest thing, I guess I’ll count her as a friend now lol.
The volunteers on orientation were pretty cool, I didn’t pay them too much attention, but I can tell they were curious about me, I guess people just watch you when you’re making everyone who comes in contact with you smile.
I like the city so far, but I need to go to clubs with people, so that I can grow. And we can help each other. So if your down let's meet up, we can just hang out first then if we feel were compatible we can go together. Don't hesitate to get back to me, wanna hear what you think.
Feel free to give me constructive criticism about how I appear to think, and how I write my posts too. anything you like or don't like

Opinions Please

Sun, 01 Jan 2012 20:01:40 +0000

Hi Guys, This is my first post on this forum so i hope its worthy of your time... lets get to it, i was at the New years party last night at flames central and i saw this girl up on the stage (in the vip area). we made eye contact and she was giving signals that she was interested. so when i tried waving her down her friends whispered to her and she looked back and gave me a sad face and kinda looked at her friend.. i couldnt go up there because it was vip either. so did i just get cockblocked or what would you guys have done

Thanks
Ahkmed

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Wed, 28 Dec 2011 09:43:29 +0000

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Night game

Sun, 11 Dec 2011 07:22:44 +0000

I want to get approach anxiety handled till it becomes automatic. Haven't done much night game, who wants to hit clubs regularly every week push each other and possibly wing together and get this shit handled. Hit me up!

Friends to go out with

Sat, 10 Dec 2011 03:52:51 +0000

Most of my friends have GF already and can't really go out to pick up girls.

I am looking for males to go to bars and to practice interacting with females. I am planning on bringing some of my female friends to improve our status.

Let me know if interested.

or add me on facebook gboivin@palmtreeco.ca

btw, my english is kinda weird. I am not retarded, just esl.

Doomed to fail? I just dont like drinking

Wed, 07 Dec 2011 07:24:55 +0000

I've avoided bars as a means of social interaction. I just don't find getting wasted very exciting?
Lately I've been linking this as a reason why I can't close.
Would I be correct in assuming this? Alcohol+Girl=F-close?

rjbf to sex

Mon, 28 Nov 2011 05:12:09 +0000

Today closed the deal finally. Never got so much shit from any woman, including ljbf, but decided to go to the end. I realized that ljbf comes from failure to escalate smooth enough. General perception is not enough kino, but not exactly true. Sometimes I got that thing just for being too horny.
Anyway, yst this chik sort of screwed me up.
She called me and asked me to give her the lift from DT to her place, cause the train did not work. I was eating at the moment, so she said, ok. Than after about 30 min I was ready to go and she changed her mind. Something like here this girl goes home, she will pick me up, but come to my home at 08:30 pm. OK, I went to Walmart and superstore. Got some things I needed and to her place. Wait till 8:37, she is not there. Sent her a text "Fix you head first and than call me". Left home. No reply.
In the morning sent her message, I had something in my car that is yours.
Getting a call 30 min later, did not make in time to the phone. Listening to the message, "call me, bla bla"
Than getting the text "I am going to the shower and I will be waiting naked for you"
"Ok , no setups"
"promise"
Cool, pack my staff, done.

Realized that setting up strong boundaries solves many problems. Also ability to break up the connection etc.

salsa experimentation

Sun, 27 Nov 2011 08:39:35 +0000

Tonight I decided to go for a salsa party and try to pick up there. I found out that it is very tricky. First of all it is really hard to keep myself from ending up dancing and sometimes it ruins all the connection, cause the general pattern is after the dance to break up and go for different partner, otherwise it is quite boring, usually different guys have their own sort of style and this is that attracts women, gives them some sort of variety.
The biggest discovery I had, when I danced with one chick, and sort of finished dancing with her, a bit nerdish girl. But well, I decided to check what if I will do a magic, so I performed a magic, for her and her friend.
Got pretty good response, but than I asked to see her palm. I guess it created a red light, cause her friend said something like this guy know too much. After this the obstacle started to give me hard time, basically she pulled my target away. I actually ended up interacting with a hotter chick, but also went to nowhere. I also found out that it is really hard to hug a girl in this environment, looks like the setup does not really approve it and anti-slot defense is higher. Generally, I will do one more raid towards salsa venues, but for now main goal will be clubs.

multiple venues

Sat, 26 Nov 2011 10:23:20 +0000

Hi guys.

Tonight I went with Ezekiel. Mostly warm up night, pushed me a bit up. We started from Melrouse, than Metropolitan on 16 AVE SW, than Metropolitan on 8 ave, West and ended up at Roadhouse. Too bad actually we did not go to the Roadhouse right away, cause it was packed with chiks. Sureal.
Melrouse was nice, I did not open sets there for years, so I started my warm up, got couple of rejections, one set I just could not hook up. There were 2 blonds and I opened them kinda generic. Then we went Metz, I met a friend from salsa there, got her phone number, kinda lame, but solid number why not. Tried to open another set, they gave me the look, probably was not warm enough. Opened a set of asian chiks sitting near one table. They moved out, than different ladies came I offered them the table, opened them, kinda hooked up. It was an aunt with her niece. The funny thing there was that aunt was 47 so Ezekiel asked her for the ID, she started to look for ID, could not find. But was no solid set. I moved out. Was one hottie dancing on the floor, tried to get her.
First I opened one lady from the set, did not work. Than I went direct, she did not give me any resistance, but also did not show any interest. Eventually I ejected from the set and we went to the West. On the way we got to Metropolitan on 8. Not much happened there. I opened one heavy set, miscalibrated with kino. The alpha chik did not like that I touched her too often, could be mistake, hard to know, but she got bitchy right away and started "Nice to meet you, but it is time to leave" Even though was some chemistry there with different chik, I had to move, cause this girl started to spark some fire.
I put my clothes on the chair next to the table, apparently the table belonged to a group where was 1 hot chik and 3 guys. One of the chodes from that group tried to attack me, just because I touched that girl's shoulder, while asking her permission to put my staff. After this that guy came to me very serious "This girl is a gf of my friend, do not try to do any predatorial staff on her",
"Cool man, did I do anything",
"NO"
"OK, thanks for letting me know"
Actually this girl shown some IOIs, but she was pretty tight with her bf , so I did not go for it.
Went to West, when we approached west, whole banch of hotties came out. I thought this is the night, but not many stayed inside and funny thing I met around 6 women I previously met in different circumstances.
It was OK, but nothing special. The best thing about West was the way we got in, was a hot chik with 2 police guys and we were going after them. So nobody had a courage to stop us and ask to pay, we just made our way with that escort.
After West we went to Roadhouse, came around 1 pm. Was literally packed there with girls. I opened some asian chik, almost made out with her in front of her bf. She wanted to take my hat as a present for her BD, well not gonna happened even for the make out.
The thing is was a huge line up in the coatcheck , so I ended up opening chicks with jacket in my hand, very inconvenient, but I still did it couple of times, even had 1 pretty solid set this way.
Good night overall.
Out of Roadhouse, opened 2 set of smoking hot chicks. They were going out of someones house and to the gym. Ended up with nothing, but was fun, besides was good solid set. Street game during the night is always a challenge.
Goals for tomorrow, still keeping 5 sec rule and work on physical lead and kino.

multiple venues

Sat, 26 Nov 2011 10:23:12 +0000